I hope you’re reading this with a joyful heart—ready to face the week. If you’ve been feeling a little out of sorts lately, I want you to know that you are not alone.

So many of us are building dreams while having a thousand ideas on the back burner waiting to bring them to life. There are scores of reasons why they aren’t.

I mean, how many times have you said: If only I had the money. If only I had the people and resources. If only I had the time.

Today, I want to remind you of a really hard truth.

by that I mean the here and the now, the question is: What are you doing about it?

Recently, I had a conversation with a friend. She was working full time at a job she was tethered to while giving her soap making business a go on the side.

One time at dinner, she bemoaned the fact that I seemed to get a lot done while she on the other hand, never seemed to have enough time in the 24 hours she was allocated.

From where I sat, however, I had no advantage over my friend. No extra blessings. We shared, I thought, the same superpower, a strong sense of self.

The only thing that separated us was that I didn’t Netflix and chill every Friday night. I wasn’t attracted to everything that was new and shiny and I reinvested the extras my business earned back into its growth.

And I have GRIT, because I learned to gently but firmly say no. That may seem easy but in fact, it was the hardest thing for me to learn especially when clients and friends were unaccustomed to my new two letter word.

to the things that don’t align with my new purpose and the growth of FF.

I said NO to 2 multinationals who came to me with a high priced PR contracts.

I said NO to my friend who asked me if you can squeeze their project during our production of FF TV.

I said NO to the people who energies did not sustain me.

Time to conquer things in my path. Time to roll up my sleeves and create a book, web series, a fashion line. Time to live out my calling and say yes to bigger things that made my spirit happier and more at peace.

Maybe Angela Duckworth said it best when she wrote about understanding how much grit keeps us focused on the entrepreneurial game.

Grit, she says ” is about working on something you care about so much that you’re willing to stay loyal to it…it’s doing what you love, but not just falling in love―staying in love”

I want that same thing for my friend because I know how much she wants to live a life working at a craft she seems born to do.

“Do not wish for more time,” I told her.

“Wish instead for the grit and the self-awareness that comes with it, it is the only way you’ll know how to use time better.”