When someone asks you: “Are You Ok ?”, it’s fine to say that you’re not, if you’re not.
Sometimes we ask that question of others on a rote, never expecting anyone to reply how tough it is for them. When they do, we’re often taken by surprise.
I started thinking that, perhaps, the best way for us to answer that question is to not say anything at all, but rather to listen. Deeply.
And to be patient, receptive, open-minded, and non-judgmental. What it doesn’t require is for us put words in other people’s mouths, fill in gaps, or presume to understand the other person’s pain fully.
We should seek to understand and empathize. We should speak when we have something worthy to say.
Last week I had that opportunity. A member of my entrepreneurial community reached out to tell me about the closure of her store, her feelings of overwhelm, her desire to rebrand, her grave sense of defeat.
I listened and because I had been there, I knew I had something of value to tell her.
What To Say When Asked: “Are You Ok?”
>>>> Sometimes when we struggle,<<<< it’s not always about what we don’t have, but what we think we don’t have. So I told my friend some of the things that I always tell myself and I think you might find useful too.
- There are ways we can be diligent in the struggle.
- If we think we can’t restart with what we have, we never will.
- When we believe we don’t have enough _________ (fill in the blank), it’ll be the truth.
- If we internalize the need to do everything all at once, we won’t ever start
Covid-19 is outside you. But everything else is within you: your determination, your grind, your reaching out to ask for help, all of it can keep pushing you forward.
Are you ok? Never say YES if you aren’t.
But each day you get up focus on what you have (health, family, community, passion, focus, need, desire, etc.). It’ll be enough to push you through. If not today, then tomorrow. Your only commitment is to make sure your tomorrow comes.
P.S. If you wondering about how I stay diligent in my own struggle, how I’m still launching products and taking care of my mental health, check out >>> THIS VIDEO <<< for a few lessons and doses of inspiration. Oh, turn up the volume and let me know in the comments how are you really doing??!!