{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Simplify","provider_url":"https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify","author_name":"Nouman Jaffar","author_url":"https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify\/author\/noumanjaffar\/","title":"The Comparison Trap","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"qJwxKk2mKf\"><a href=\"https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify\/the-comparison-trap\/\">The Comparison Trap<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify\/the-comparison-trap\/embed\/#?secret=qJwxKk2mKf\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;The Comparison Trap&#8221; &#8212; Simplify\" data-secret=\"qJwxKk2mKf\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script>\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(d,l){\"use strict\";l.querySelector&&d.addEventListener&&\"undefined\"!=typeof URL&&(d.wp=d.wp||{},d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage||(d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if((t||t.secret||t.message||t.value)&&!\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret)){for(var s,r,n,a=l.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=l.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),c=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),i=0;i<o.length;i++)o[i].style.display=\"none\";for(i=0;i<a.length;i++)s=a[i],e.source===s.contentWindow&&(s.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message?(1e3<(r=parseInt(t.value,10))?r=1e3:~~r<200&&(r=200),s.height=r):\"link\"===t.message&&(r=new URL(s.getAttribute(\"src\")),n=new URL(t.value),c.test(n.protocol))&&n.host===r.host&&l.activeElement===s&&(d.top.location.href=t.value))}},d.addEventListener(\"message\",d.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),l.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",function(){for(var e,t,s=l.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),r=0;r<s.length;r++)(t=(e=s[r]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\"))||(t=Math.random().toString(36).substring(2,12),e.src+=\"#?secret=\"+t,e.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",t)),e.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:t},\"*\")},!1)))}(window,document);\n\/\/# sourceURL=https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify\/wp-includes\/js\/wp-embed.min.js\n<\/script>\n","description":"It\u2019s a ______ (weird feeling \/so surreal\/shaky thing) to feel like you\u2019re not where you\u2019re supposed to be and that some people are so much further ahead.\u00a0\u00a0 Not married. Divorced. Married but not fulfilled. Renting. Feeling burdened by the mortgage\u00a0 Children. Looking back with regret at having no children Unbothered. Living alone but wishing for some company. Not having the business you want. Having the business you want but feeling burdened. Taking big scary risks while everyone is settling down. Being settled and looking out the window yearning for something more We can all feel as if we are not enough and be hampered by________ (thoughts of where we should be by now\/ the \u201ccompetition\u201d \/ how much further someone else has reached \/ the feeling that we are way behind).\u00a0 But here\u2019s the real deal. While we can sometimes struggle to control our feelings, it should not stop us from still finding joy in our present. You can hold space to get the negative thoughts out of your head and you can hold space to acknowledge that your journey to self is ongoing.\u00a0\u00a0 I understand the yearning for more and the hunger for the next but don\u2019t let that stop you from the happiness that\u2019s happening now.\u00a0 Agree?","thumbnail_url":"https:\/\/forwardforty.com\/simplify\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/footerline-2.jpg"}